Deepened our Understanding About God’s timing
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La Mennais Brothers Iloilo Community, Philippines
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Understanding God's Timing
By: Asp.Raphy Gordon
One of the reasons so many ministries become discouraged and too often fail is the inability to understand God's timing.
Having lived for the Lord for over 25 years and served Him in ministry for over 20, I admit that there are very few times when God acts when I think He should.
In my own ministry, this has caused me much grief and discouragement. I'm an action person. When I see a job that needs to be done, I find a way to get it done before others even realize there was a need. It drives me nuts when I see other people drag their feet when there should be action in a needful situation. So waiting on God who does not operate in the same time zone as I do has been very hard. (CAN I GET A WITNESS?)
To fully understand the timing in which God operates, we must turn to the scripture. One translation of 2 Pet 3:9 says, "The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish but everyone come to repentance." 2 Pet 3:9
When I read this scripture I have to admit that my mind wants to argue with the writer. In my carnal thinking, I feel that God is very slow in nearly everything that He does. My natural mind believes He is slow to punish the wicked. It thinks that He is slow in His return. It sees the suffering in the world and does not understand His absence of immediate help to the starving and sick.
However, the reading shows me that He is not slow in keeping his promise, "as some men understand slowness." The real problem is not with God, but rather with me. I am "some men". My understanding of when He should act is obviously not His understanding. You see, He sees this world and all that goes on in it from a completely different perspective than I do. My perception is from that of a carnal, mortal whose understanding is limited. His is from that of being an eternal, Holy, all knowing God.
This reading lets me know that God and I share the same burden to see the lost saved, but that my understanding of slowness is inaccurate. I have for most of my life felt that things should happen almost immediately. However, as I have gotten older, I have learned that most often that is not even possible. I have had to learn patients. I have had to wait on people to change. I have had to learn to wait on circumstances to become so difficult for people that they are forced to change their thinking so change could come.
Peter 3:8 lets us know that with the Lord a thousand years is like a day. Evidently, time is not something God has to worry about. He does not make decisions based on the clock, calendar or length of men's lives. He is not in a hurry. He is patient. Time is not a factor for Him. It is for me. It is for you. It is not for Him.
When I pray, I ask God to do things ASAP. I'll say things like, "Lord, I need this bill paid by the first, can you help?" or "Father, we really want to be in the house we are building by the end of next year." Now understand, a God who sees no difference between a thousand years and a day is not going to be in a hurry to get my bill paid by the first of the month and neither is He going to be in a rush to get us into the house by the end of the year.
He does not operate within the elements of or for the purpose of time. He only operates within the confines and boundaries of a redemptive purpose. Peter 3:9 lets us know that his purpose is not timely, but redemptive. It only has to do with souls and spiritual maturity.
If we have a lesson to learn by waiting, then He makes us wait. If we will grow spiritually or mature in our faith by His delay, then He delays. It really has nothing at all to do with our immediate physical needs. It has everything to do with where we are at in the redemptive process.
Look at Moses. 40 Years in Pharaoh's court and schools of higher learning. For what? So he can be a lonely Shepard for the next 40 years. Now I have to admit... at about the end of the first year in the desert watching sheep when I was trained to lead a nation, I would say, "God you messed up!" Moses was put into a position in that desert where he was forced to learn to wait on God to the point that he had to release all personal understanding of time.
This was going to be absolutely necessary when he began leading the nation of Israel in the wilderness. Forty more years of waiting on God in the wilderness was going to be the result of his 40 years of waiting on God in the desert. God knew that the nation of Israel had to learn the same lesson of waiting on His timing and He needed Moses to lead the nation since he had already learned that lesson.
Neither was God going to give them the promised land over night. Ex 23:28-29 tells us that He would not drive their enemies out in a single year, but rather little by little until they had increased enough to take the land.
The motive for God's delay has nothing to do with purposeful impediment. He is simply waiting on our maturity level to rise to a place where we can then take the land (revival, finances, etc). If God were to give many of our churches a one thousand soul revival in a single year, we would lose most of those souls as few churches are genuinely prepared to handle that kind of immediate growth.
Three years ago I attended the General Conference of the church organization I am a part of. It was hosted in Toronto Canada. On the last day of that conference a crusade service was held in which around 400 new converts were filled with the Holy Spirit speaking in tongues in a single service. (I have rejoiced over that service every time I think of it.) This last weekend I attended that same conference in another city and had the opportunity to speak to a friend who pastors one of the churches in Toronto. I asked him how many of the converts from the crusade in Toronto 3 years ago are still attending the churches there. He told me that the only people who are still attending any of the churches are people who had previous connections with the church or where the church has developed relationships with those new converts.
We want revival now. We want everyone to come to Truth today. So does God. But we are not waiting on Him. He is waiting on our congregations to mature to a level where they can do the work of evangelizing and then also be able to maintain the growth that God would give.
How many of the hundreds of people who received the Holy Spirit that night would still be a part of the church today, if we would have spent more time preparing the churches to maintain the growth that was coming, before it happened. I pray that the Lord would forgive us of our arrogance and ignorance in this area. How many souls will be aborted before we realize the absolute necessity of training the church to maintain growth and become spiritually mature?
Would God bless our evangelism efforts more if our level of maturity was to a height where we could actually keep those souls who would come in as a result of that miracle?
Many of us are big on telling the numbers of converts to our churches. We need to get big on the percentage of people we keep. That shows our true level of maturity as a church body. I hear few churches brag on their percentage of converts who are still with them after 5 years, but I hear a lot of churches bragging on the number of people who get saved in one service.
God's timing is not about time. It is about the redemptive process. When we are ready for the growth, it will come. He does not delay. He is not late. He is waiting on us church. Let's prepare Him and habitation.
Staying Focused In Your Area Of Ministry
Sometimes you just have to say it like it is. This is one of those times. I offer this to you in a gentle spirit and pray that if you share it with others on your team, that you would do so in a spirit of gentleness and meekness.
John Maxwell says "Only do what only you can do." This is important in the various areas of ministry of the local church. One thing that stops the momentum of a church is various leaders trying to run someone else's ministry. When God has placed you in an area of ministry within the church, he did not put you there so you could judge other lay ministers of the church. Do your job and let others do theirs.
Focus on your own ministry. What can you do to cause your own ministry to make a greater impact in your church and community? Anytime you spend even a few minutes judging the way another person is running their own department or area of ministry within the church, you are wasting valuable time, energy and emotion that if better used, could be applied perfecting you own.
Too often people criticize the work of others in order to make their own ministry look good. Lazy people usually find time to do this. These people are jealous of other people's success and try to destroy them in order to preserve their rank or position in a church. This is not a Godly spirit and should be stopped immediately. There is no room in any church for division. If you do not like what other people are doing, mind your own business and do your own job and trust God to take care of the rest. It is His church and not yours after all.
Momentum is only created after enough pressure is placed on an object for a long enough period of time. You cannot get a car rolling from a standstill with 5 pounds of pressure for 2 seconds. But if you push hard enough for a long enough period of time, it will start to roll. If you are someone who jumps from one project or area of ministry in the church to another without staying long enough to see results, you need to get focused. Work hard enough and stay long enough to see the results God has envisioned you with.
By: Asp.Raphy Gordon
How To Develop Relationships
Love people. Every person comes from a different environment and culture. It is easy to misunderstand someone who is not from your same background. Loving people regardless of where they come from or how they are made up allows you the opportunity to develop relationships with those others would never consider.
Reach out to others. If you wait for others to reach out to you for a relationship, you will be waiting a very long time. We live in a day in which people are not willing to reach out in relationships. The relationships they have experienced have been painful and they are not in a hurry to get back into a relationship that makes them vulnerable to others. If you are going to have a relationship with someone, realize that you will have to be the one to initiate the relationship.
Go where people are. Sitting on your church pew will not put you in a position to gather relationships. Join a gardening club. Volunteer in your community. Take walks with the objective to stop and talk to your neighbors. Get out there and meet people.
Practice friendly greetings. My wife has told me that I give a terrible first impression. For this reason alone, I have stood in the mirror and practiced my first smile and greeting. I want people to know that I want to get to know them so I have to work at it where it may come a little easier for others.
Go the second mile. If you quit on a relationship at the first opportunity or disappointment, you will not have many relationships. The people you love the most in life will disappoint you more than anyone. Allow grace to operate in your relationships.
Find common interests - Don't waste time dwelling on the things that separate you from others, find common ground. When I sold insurance, I was often times invited into people's homes. When I could find no common ground or it was hard to get them to talk to me, I would always walk over to the pictures in their home and ask them about the people in the pictures. "Are these your grandchildren?" It got them talking every time!
Give recognition and encouragement. Most people need someone to lift them up. Recognize others accomplishments and tell them how important they are to you. This will permit them the opportunity to feel good about themselves. It's not what you say to people...It's how you make them feel that is important.
Be flexible. They may not dress like you or want to eat at the same restaurants - be flexible. If you only like Italian restaurants and your friends only like Asian food, one of you is going to have to be flexible if you are going to enjoy a night out.
The perfect example of someone who was a master at creating and maintaining relationships was Jesus Christ. He reached out to people from every walk of life for the purpose of gaining a personal relationship with them. He did not care if they were rich or poor. He even reached out to a Samaritan woman whom others hated and would ridicule him for having such a relationship. Reach out!
To Be An Effective Leader...
In his book The Next Generation Leader, Andy Stanley offers 5 valid points to consider if you desire to be an effective leader. I highly recommend this book to anyone in a leadership position.
Face it, you are not as good as you could be. So what are you going to do about it? The only way to go farther, faster, is to engage outside help. You can maximize your leadership potential by getting a coach...or two.
Find someone to observe you in a variety of leadership settings. Outside input is critical. Even if you could watch yourself in a mirror twenty-four hours day, you would never see yourself as others see you.
Select a coach who has no axe to grind and not reason to be anything except brutally honest. He need not be an expert in your field. What your coach must be able to do, however, is put himself in the shoes of those who are influenced by your leadership.
Try to find someone who can articulate his thoughts with clarity and precision. You don't need glaring generalities; you need to know exactly what needs to be repeated and deleted in your leadership.
Become a coach. As we learn to do by doing, we learn to accept by giving.